1) When I said I needed to dust my walls and ceiling fans, I meant it, and it was accomplished with my husband's begrudging help. Now he proceeds to make fun of me because, "Who in the world looks to see if you have dust on your walls and fans?!"
No one, and I'd like to keep it that way!
I'm trying to explain to him that people never notice a clean house but will always, always, walk away making comments to others about how dirty your house is. Its human nature, over look the good, take note of the bad and spread the word.
Back me up here people. Do you ever notice when a house is clean?
I'm not talking about a house that is usually skanky and has suddenly been picked up and brushed off, nor am I talking about a house that is so immaculate you're afraid to put a finger print on the bathroom faucet. But wouldn't you notice if you walked into a house and started sneezing because there's an inch of dust on the end tables and the colors on television screen has a bit too much grey?
Am I actually *gasp* wrong (I like to think I'm never entirely incorrect) or could Jeremy just not want to admit he has a good wife who keeps a clean house?
2) Jer has informed me that I am really lucky because "do you know how many guys actually help their wives clean the house?" and "there aren't any other husbands on the boat who clean the kitchen and the bathrooms and I do it all the time." To which I ask him, "how many other guys have one fucking sexy wife making home cooked meals and made from scratch desserts on a regular basis? It looks from your growing waistline that you're not complaining either."
Seriously? Did he just go there? I mean, are we back in the 1950s where the man of the house works all day, bringing in the bacon and comes home only to eat, sleep and donate sperm?
Oh, I guess all the cooked meals, clean house and child rearing should be accomplished on. my. own.
Thanks for your support, honey.
3) I believe he should pull his head out of his behind and appreciate how good he has it- kitchen/bathroom chores and all.
Jeremy believes I should cut him some slack and let him come home from work and play video games instead of harassing him to play with his off spring and wipe up a counter.
Who's more right?
I am totally with you here sister!!! I agree about the clean house and everyone notices when it is more dirty than usual. plus it is completely unhealthy to have celing fans running with dust on them!
ReplyDeleteYou will have to tell Jeremy to suck it up, Andy comes home everyday only to play and care for Isabella, while I make dinner and he also helps around the house when he is home! Sorry Jer!
Hope all is well!
ERICA
I guess I'm lucky because Jody will do everything on his own, I never have to ask him to help out. He cleans, he makes me breakfast everyday, he loves doing the laundry, he takes care of Lilly (our version of a kid)...and we're not even married! That is not even his house. He just knows that if something needs be done, and if he is able to do it, then he does it. No big deal.
ReplyDeleteYou are lucky to have a husband who helps out, but not if he's going to cry and moan about it. I would say to stop cleaning for a month or so and see if he notices, but that may backfire - he may not notice at all.
You know I agree with you on this one! Aaron helps me out around the house all the time. He knows that if he didn't, he would have to hear me bitch and moan and complain, so he just goes ahead and does it. Tell him if he gets to come home and play video games then you get to spend precious money to hire a housekeeper so you and Kyra can have more time to do fun stuff.
ReplyDeleteYou are right about the clean house. People will always notice that odd cobweb or the dust on the tv screen. And you are right about being an unusual wife. He should be grateful for all that you do.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, let's remember that if his job is anything like my husband's job, it's not fun either. Putting in all that time and feeling so little reward and respect for their intelligence and hard work, cleaning bulkheads when they could be putting together computer motherboards or airplanes, having to obey people who know less about their jobs than they do, all this can really wear on a person. You are right to expect assistance and appreciation, but don't forget to appreciate all that he does too.
My husband is the best. Not only does he clean the house, when I don't, But he also cooks that home cooked meals and desserts. I never complain. or at least i try not to . And I am a big OCD person when it comes to dust. Thanks to my mother, my fans are dusted often. And my base boards are often washed. That is the one thing i do that i cn say no one realizes if they are clean or dirty. But I back you up ONE HUNDRED percent in this blog!!! ( i have a new blog)
ReplyDelete1) Dust doesn't worry me, unless it's wickedly overly dusty and yeah I'm sneezing up a storm. But a layer of dust on the tv doesn't bother me and I never look at ceiling fans (unless I'm inspecting a new property and then yes I'm all over dust big time LOL)
ReplyDelete2) Heh. Mine used to be good. Now he isn't. We don't argue anymore since I've just accepted that he's not only a part-time father due to work, he is also a part-time husband. I pick up everything except his junk - I actually vacuum around that.
3) I'm with you. I believe the same thing. Bottom line is, men are men and unless you score a fantastic one (ala Lindsey and Jody), you're pretty much in the same leaky boat the rest of us are in. GRRRR. (Looking now for someone to patch said boat...) LOL ;)
hasn't he noticed how Sean raves over your cooking? he should definitely be appreciating your good cooking by at least a little helping out with cleaning!
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